Cracking the “How to Get Unstuck” Code: 7 Noteworthy Tips
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Ever tried to figure out how to get unstuck?
Everybody goes through them. Those periods in life when you feel hopelessly “stuck”.
You’re mentally or emotionally stumped, jammed up, at a loss, not sure which direction to take, unable to move forward, unable to grow…and you can’t figure out what to do.
I get it. Been there, done that.
During times when you feel stuck and immobilized, you can also feel alone in your experience. But I assure you, you’re not. You have plenty company, as this is a phenomenon that happens to most everyone at some point in life.
You can often feel stuck when you reach a point in life where you are unsure of yourself, indecisive or need to make changes.
At the time, it may seem that we’re hopelessly entrenched in a muddled mess that we can’t move beyond. But that’s just not true.
If you’re feeling stuck, however messed up things seem to be, just know that you are not trapped.
There is a way past the place in which you currently find yourself. Trust me. You always have options and there’s always a way through your circumstances.
You just need a little push or a little tug to get unstuck, start moving again and have some idea of the direction in which you should go.
Here are seven quick and simple tips and strategies to help you determine how to get unstuck and start you on your way again.
1. Embrace the truth about yourself and the reality of your circumstances.
Be brutally honest with yourself first, and then others about who you really are and what you really want.
Stop focusing on the “ideal”…the person you wish you were, the financial situation you wish you had, the person that others want or expect you to be.
Don’t pretend to know what you’re doing when you don’t, that you don’t need help when you do, or feign trying your best or striving your hardest when you aren’t. Stop it.
Accept the reality of “what is” regardless of how hard, uncomfortable or unflattering it may be.
Admit that if you’re feeling stuck and unhappy, somewhere along your journey there’s more than a good chance that you’ve made poor choices, you’ve been uncommitted (or lazy) and you’ve been inconsistent in doing the things required for you to be the person you want to be and for your life to be what you envision.
Own those truths about yourself. You aren’t perfect. Surprise! Neither is anyone else.
Then dedicate yourself to correcting those things, and the desired change will come.
2. Open yourself up to all potential possibilities for your life, without judgment.
Rather than put limits on your choices and desired outcomes, think in terms of limitless possibilities.
For example, if you faced no obstacles or barriers of any kind, who would you be, what would you do, and how would you choose to show up in the world?
Flip your thought processes and begin to think of all of the possibilities open to you rather than the barriers, obstacles and challenges that may limit you.
3. Assess yourself and your situation.
Ask the difficult questions and determine what it is you want (and this is very important) without placing limitations on your ideas and visions. DECIDE what you want.
4. Make a plan of ACTION.
Create a plan that outlines in detail how (exactly) you’re going to accomplish what it is that you’ve decided.
(Full disclosure: I have really sucked at this.)
5. Do it! Commit to your decision, initiate your plan and then go about making it happen.
Not just today or tomorrow, but consistently until you have achieved what you desire.
6. Learn something new every day.
Using what I call the “20 Minutes A Day Classroom”, reserve twenty minutes each and every day to work on learning something new. Whether it’s reading a book, learning a language, mastering a new skill or technique it doesn’t matter.
Get in the habit of acquiring new knowledge every single day. If you simply do that, no two days will ever be the same. You will create a continuous forward momentum, and you’ll not find yourself “stuck”.
One of the most significant benefits of journaling is the ability to document your thoughts and feelings, monitor your behavior and actions, and then track your progress.
Identify patterns in your thoughts, perceptions and behavior; both good and bad. Then make adjustments and changes.
When you journal, find clarity and see “the bigger picture”. You will build confidence and then make better decisions in the future.
Learning how to get unstuck is not so difficult or complicated. Decide what you want, choose how to go about getting it, and take action. Those things will break your paralysis and develop the momentum you need to get unstuck.
Finally, if you feel stuck, realize that you’re in a specific “season” of life.
No season lasts forever. Use these tips to determine how to get unstuck and get to work.
Do you feel stuck in life? If so, please tell me about it by leaving a comment below.
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Kimberly Clay is the founder and creative force behind What She Say. She’s a business professional, writer and editor who’s been creating and managing digital content for nearly twenty years. Her work is now focused in the areas of self-improvement and personal development, and she is passionate about helping other individuals, especially women, to find a path for living their best life.
What format is the e book in? I received it but cannot get it opened.
I’m so sorry you’re having trouble! It’s a .pdf document.
I am very stuck right now in my life. Yes i have admitted to my faults and i still cant get past the slump. I am out if work right now. No money. Recovering addict and alcoholic. I have no family except my three kids. I live in poverty. I try to pray and seek for higher things but i dont see thr fight for it anymore. I wanted to always be a happy person maybe married with my own house and to live comfortable. Not even be rich just comfortable. I am just so sick of myself.
I’m so very sorry that you’re in what sounds like a very tough situation right now. Believe me, I know what that’s like when things don’t feel good, look good and you’re uncertain as to how or when things are going to change for the better. If there’s anything I can say that might be of encouragement, it is that what you’re experiencing is what we call a “season” in life. And one thing that’s true about seasons is that they don’t last forever (they weren’t designed to last) and they most certainly will change.
Seasons come into our lives for different reasons. Sometimes we need to learn something. Sometimes we need to “unlearn” some things. Or, at times we need to see things about ourselves; to better know and understand just who it is that we are or what it is that we truly value. What’s really important to us. And I also believe that there are times when we suffer, so that we might know and understand the sufferings of others.
I would like to offer a couple scripture readings that may provide you some comfort.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
“Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;
Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.”
“Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the Lord thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.”
I wish you the best, and hope things turn around for you soon. Hang in there, and please message me in the future and let me know how you’re doing. You are not alone.