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4 Tips to Stop Listening to Naysayers and Live Your Best Life

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There are few things in this world that are more frustrating than figuring out how to stop listening to naysayers. Regardless of what change you are trying to make in your life or goal you are trying to reach, you will always have people trying to discourage you and getting in your head.

It's hard to know how to ignore the naysayers, and so we often end up being very affected by their opinions. If this is something you find yourself dealing with, here are four of our best tips on how to deal with naysayers and live your best life.


4 Ways to Stop Listening to Naysayers



1. Be Convicted in Your Goal

When we are unsure about our goals or beliefs, it’s very easy for others to knock them down. But when we are clear about what we want, committed to our goals, trust ourselves and confident in our abilities, the comments of naysayers go in one ear and out the other because we believe in who we are, and the vision we have for our lives.

So, the first step to learning how to ignore naysayers is to come from a place of authenticity, confidence and commitment to your goal.


2. Understand Others' Point of View

As frustrating as naysayers are, it’s important to note that they don’t always come from a place of malice. Before you get upset at their comments or stop listening to their point of view, you need to understand not only what they're saying, but where they're coming from – their perspective and their motives toward you. Are they telling you not to freelance because they don't have confidence in your skills and abilities, or are they afraid of losing their own jobs?

When listening to naysayers, it’s also important to ask yourself, are they experts? Do the people offering advice or opinions professionals in the subject matter? Do they have experience dealing with what you're contemplating doing?

If their advice isn’t coming from a place of experience and expertise, then consider it really is irrelevant. They don't know any more than you do about it. So what's to say your way of thinking and your perspective isn't right or won't be successful?

In many cases (not all, but many) what you'll learn is that most naysayers come from a place of fear and insecurity from their own lives and experience. They just don't know any better. And the best thing to do in those circumstances is to thank them for their input, because they're often really just trying to help you and keep you from harm, but don't take what they say seriously.


3. Don’t Overshare

If you want to stop listening to naysayers, don’t give them anything to talk about! Stop sharing your business with everyone.

Your goals and the overall vision you have for your life are valuable, precious and delicate things. Keep your goals to yourself, and share them only with those people whose thoughts and opinions you value and trust and whose intentions toward you are pure and sincere. And even then, you still have to be extremely careful to weigh their input against your own thoughts and ideas.

Give yourself the ability to quietly and confidently build a solid foundation for your life vision (or whatever you're attempting to do or accomplish), because a solid foundation is nearly impossible to knock down. But if you carelessly share your goals or intentions with anyone and everyone who has an opinion (and let's face it, we all do) without having created a strong foundation for what you see for yourself and your life, it’s easy for the comments of naysayers to cast doubt in you and to cause your plans to crumble.


4. Don’t Engage

One of the most difficult - but rewarding - ways to stop listening to naysayers is to simply refuse to engage. If you don’t engage in a conversation where someone is being negative or discrediting you, they don’t get the response that they want and eventually they'll just stop talking.

Whether you have had naysayers try to talk you out of a dietary change, pursuing a new career, or following your dreams, it’s time to stop listening to them. If you allow their opinions to be so substantial in your life, you will never be able to move forward and progress with confidence on your own.


Final Thoughts

Learning how to stop listening to naysayers is one of the most valuable skills you can possibly learn. While it may seem like a difficult task in the beginning, follow these four tips and you’ll realize that it’s much easier than you thought, and much better for your life!

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The Only 10 Positive Affirmations You Need To Change Your Life This Year

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There’s a good chance you’ve heard the term ‘positive affirmations’ before. It’s a hot topic from health gurus to TED Talks – that the very act of speaking positive things can have an immensely beneficial impact in your life.

It sounds too good to be true, but optimism is good for your health and increasing daily positivity has a very genuine effect.

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Live Life Better: 15 Ways to Foster a Winning Positive Attitude

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“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.” – Helen Keller.
No matter how amazing your life or how dazzling your smile, everyone hits a bumpy road every now and then. And when it happens, it’s not easy to be positive.

You may think it takes a superwoman to manage both work and family; to keep up with a fast-paced life; to cope with ‘not-so-positive’ people and situations, or to manage your kids and be an engaged and attentive partner while dealing with your own demons.

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12 Limiting Beliefs You Must Abandon Now to Reach Your Breakthrough

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The Bad News: Limiting Beliefs Are Blocking Your Success.
The Good News: You Can Fix It.


I'm not good enough. I am not as smart, beautiful, or successful as... I can’t.

I’m sure you've told yourself those (or similar) things at some point in life – I have.

These limiting beliefs are the reason many of us feel stuck wherever we are.

We’re supposed to be our own biggest cheerleaders, but it’s easy to become our most powerful enemies, blocking ourselves from achieving our real potential.

Mid-century American journalist and author Mignon McLaughlin once said, “Learning too soon our limitations, we never learn our powers.”

That’s the thing... as women, we are powerful. We create and nurture our families, we multi-task, we create Pinterest-worthy living rooms on thrift store budgets – and yet at the same time, we also have the power to make ourselves feel powerless.

To reach our potential and to become the women we’ve always wanted to be – at any age -- we must first overcome limiting beliefs.

It's only then we are able to aggressively pursue the path to success.

I know. It's easier said than done.

Limiting Beliefs. They’re the ideas and beliefs we hold onto, but that constrain us. They hold us back, hamper us from progressing, and prevent us living up to our potential.

And limiting beliefs are a part of the negative monologue we replay in our heads.

They clip our wings.

These beliefs begin in childhood, and are developed over time.

They form in different ways, but commonly by our holding onto negative thought patterns, opinions and comments of others relative to ourselves, or by taking what often amounts to one negative experience and cementing it as our new normal.

Forming limiting beliefs is an internally damaging way of making your flaws, even (and sometimes especially) imagined ones, the truth of who you are.

Then constantly repaying those flaws or negative experiences on a mental loop when you are faced with unfamiliar situations, taking risks or trying something new.

Most women have a set of limiting beliefs ranging from a mild form of protective discouragement to the much more extremes of pure self-hatred.

Regardless of how long you’ve cultivated them, limiting beliefs do not have to be your reality.

Developing methods of identifying and circumventing these negative thought patterns and monologues is a critical step in building a healthy self-image and helping you to live a life you deem successful.

Surprisingly enough, we have common limiting beliefs. Following is a list of twelve quite common limiting beliefs that stop us from achieving our true potential along with some helpful tips for overcoming them. Some you may recognize from your own experience.

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Twelve Common Limiting Beliefs and
What You Can Do About Them


1. I don’t have enough (time/money/resources…etc.)

Focusing on what you don’t have is easy.

If we’re being honest with ourselves, we’d all be happier with a little more time on our hands, cash in our wallets, and so on.

Most of the top ten limiting beliefs focus on what we don’t have.

But it’s easy to focus on what you don’t have.

Instead of doing that though, take a moment to express gratitude for what you do have.

Then move forward out of that familiar place of concentrating on what you lack.

Instead, use the resources you already have to get more money (whether it's putting yourself in position to get or request a raise, actively seeking better-paying job, starting a side-hustle etc.), to gain additional skills, to better manage your time, to become the person you ultimately want to be.

2. It’s too late

At the end of the day – especially in the age of social media – it’s so easy to compare ourselves against others' accomplishments. This makes the notion of “too late” one of the most common limiting beliefs, but it’s a limiting belief we can overcome.

Maybe you grew up with a mother who constantly reminded you that your biological clock is ticking.

Maybe you've found something you’re passionate about later in life and feel overwhelmed by the steps it would take to turn that passion into a career...

Women are especially sensitive to “watching the clock” in terms of how old we are and how much less time we think we have to accomplish the things we'd like, compared to someone who is younger.

Society conditions us that way.

We’re surrounded by images of youth as a symbol for women’s health and importance - a system which is not only unfair, but extremely negative and harmful.

By the time we're 25, others often feel the need to remind us that we had better get a move on.

Find the career, get married, have kids, acquire a nice house . And don’t forget to hide any wrinkles, blemishes, gray hairs, or other imperfections flawlessly while you’re at it.

As women, we tend to fall straight out of our teen-aged years and young adulthood into a vast limbo between “not that young” and “not yet elderly”.

In the rush, many of us lose track of what really brings meaning to our lives.

By the time we rediscover them again, the “It’s too late” voice comes through loud and clear.

“I always wanted to be an artist but…”
“I always wanted to spend a year traveling but…”
“I wish I could study law but…”
“I wanted to be trilingual but…”

While the “It’s Too Late” belief acknowledges that we want more for ourselves, it sets us up against time as the enemy.

“You can’t have it because there isn’t enough time, “ is an illogical statement.

If you are alive, you still have time to pursue the things you'd like.

If you’re alive, it's not too late.

Managing new goals and learning new things later in life may have added challenges, but there are added advantages as well.

You have the grace of hard earned wisdom to guide your choices.

You have the balance of knowing what does and does not make you happy.

You’re not too late.

3. I am not as good as...

The feeling of a lack of self-worth in comparison with others.

This is a belief many people struggle with regardless of gender or age.

It’s a belief you pick up the first time you’re picked last for a team in gym class, or the first time everyone pays more attention to your best friend (rather than you) at a party.

Unfortunately, it follows us from childhood into adulthood.

Feeling less worthy or valuable in comparison to our peers turns into feeling less valuable in the workplace and at home.

“I’m not as good a mother as my sister.”
“I’m not as good as he is at giving presentations.”
“I’m not as fun a wife as...”
“I’m not as good a writer as the guy doing the main story.”

These negative thoughts are fueled by insecurity and can become a hindrance to performing to the best of your ability at work or at home.

If you’re spending your energy reminding yourself that someone else can do things better, you’re not using that energy toward your own best efforts.

What results is that your beliefs become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

They take your attention and presence out of the situation, and you fail to operate at your maximum proficiency.

What's important to remember in these situations is that each of us is an individual, and thus we have different strengths and weaknesses.

Instead of focusing on how you stack up against the strengths of others, remind yourself of your own strengths.

“I’m not as good at giving presentations,” can turn into “I’m a quick learner. I can easily learn how to speak more effectively.”

“I’m not as good a mother as my sister” can turn into “I’m a very dedicated mother, therefore I can learn to better listen to what my kids have to say”.

Change the narrative of your limiting belief to highlight what makes you qualified and create real solutions.

It’s a much better use of your time and energy.


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4. I don’t know who I am (anymore)

For women, this is another very common limiting belief.

It’s easy to get lost in our responsibilities – career, family, relationships.

To overcome this limiting belief, make the time and the effort to take some time for yourself.

Think about where you are now, consider your core values and beliefs, and what it is you want from your life.

5. I already tried

We’ve all heard the saying “once bitten, twice shy.”

It’s as true as they come.

Once we’ve experienced negative results to an endeavor, we're hesitant to venture into that territory again.

It’s a protective measure of our inner self to shield us from pain and disappointment.

But pain and disappointment are often important parts of our developing as a person.

Trying and failing happens to everyone, and by no means makes us failures.

“I already tried to get a book published and it didn't work out.”
“I’ve already been married and it didn’t work out. I don’t want to go through that again.”
“I tried to finish college, but it didn’t happen. I don’t see the point in going back.”

These statements are half-truths followed by a barrier. You acknowledge that you tried something new, but immediately bar yourself from trying it again.

Without trial and error, we don’t grow - we don’t learn and evolve.

Instead of not trying something again, identify a lesson in each failure and use it as a stepping stone for the next attempt.

“I will make sure to avoid these red flags in future relationships and find someone who really wants to grow with me.”

“I had an issue dedicating the time I needed to studying in college. This time around, I will make certain to manage my time more efficiently.”

Identifying what aspect of the last attempt did not work and developing a new plan of action is the best way to combat the “I Already Tried” belief.

Explore your failures or negative experiences, no matter how severe, learn what you can from them that will be helpful in the future, then learn to let them go.

6. I’ll be judged

Let’s take a page from the playbooks of two contemporary and empowered women: Oprah and Beyonce.

As each has grown in age, womanhood, and her career, she has become more and more of herself, unapologetically.

In turn, her authenticity draws people to her.

Of course, it also serves as a magnet for people interested criticizing her every outfit, life choice, and career moves.

Does either Oprah or Beyonce care? Maybe, but I sincerely doubt it.

Does it stop her? Absolutely not.

Being afraid of what others might think is a common limiting belief but being true to yourself will make you more confident, more empowered – more like Beyonce.

7. I have never been good at.../ I am not good at...

When looking at gender differences in math and science, for many women, there is a perception that they simply cannot be good at math.

For me, higher math was the bane of my existence in high school and throughout my entire college career.

I was never good at it in school, and avoided it like the plague as an adult.

For women, this limiting belief is one of the most damaging.

It functions as an excuse for ignorance and poor performance, keeping untold young girls from pursuing successful and often lucrative careers as scientists, computer technologists and engineers, as well as mathematicians.

“I was never good at math, so I can't pursue technical studies.”
“I have never been good at telling significant others how I feel, that’s just me.”
“I’m not good driver, so I don’t drive on trips.”

These statements acknowledge a flaw or weakness, and then bolster it as a valid limitation. As if nothing can be done to change or overcome it.

Living with these kinds of beliefs can keep you from performing at your best , and diminish you as an asset to those around you.

Identifying our weaknesses is actually a good thing. Of all people, we should know our weaknesses and true limitations.

However, we should not allow our weaknesses to be limitations when we're perfectly able to do something about it.

“I have never been good at telling significant others how I feel, but I’m working on being much better at communicating this time around.”

“I’m not the best driver, so I signed up to take a driving refresher course.”

Instead of turning deficiencies into a mental block, use them as a reason to learn something new.

8. I can’t pull off...

This is a vanity belief, or the exact opposite of one.

Immediately counting yourself out of fashionable trends and styles that interest you only assures that you won’t find a renewed confidence in yourself.

"I can't wear pink, it doesn't look good on me."
"I've always wanted to try that eyeliner, but I can't pull it off."
"I love some of these sun dresses, but I'm not a dress person."

For some of us, there are set boundaries in our heads that develop after a questionable or bad experience.

This is equally true with what we perceive as possible with regard to our physical appearance (age) and wearing stylish clothes.

Does that mean you should go out and buy the same outfit your teen-aged niece wears?

Obviously not.

But don't wall yourself into a set look or a set way of being, when other things interest you.

If you've always been a laid-back dresser and suddenly you feel like dressing up a little - do it!

Your physical appearance (age) does not have to be a hindrance to looking fashionable or stylish.

Don't count yourself out of finding a look that makes you happy before giving yourself the opportunity to experiment with a variety of fabrics, styles and looks that appeal to you and learning what helps you to look and feel your best.


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9. They don't want me

When the voice in your head convinces you that you're unwanted or don't fit in, it can cause self-isolation that is both damaging to your self-esteem and to your relationships.

It can happen in a variety of situations - in romantic relationships, friendships, family situations, and even with simple acquaintances.

"All of the mom's in PTA sit together at the games, but I don't think they want me over there."
"My coworkers go to happy hour every week, but I'm sure they wouldn't want me to come."
"The guy who approached me and my friend at the party is nice, but he definitely didn't come over for me."
"They're hiring for a position I'm really interested in, but I'm sure they want somebody different than me."

Counting yourself out before you begin guarantees that you miss out on opportunities and experiences you may well have enjoyed and benefited from.

Even if you are not typically an assertive person, it's possible to navigate inclusion without being pushy.

Strike up a conversation, say “hello”, let someone know you're interested in an opportunity or want to be a part of a group.

Don't sideline yourself in your own life, and don't assume you know the minds of others whom you may mistakenly believe don't want to consider or include you.

Remember that you have something to offer the world, and removing yourself from opportunities before you can be considered for them deprives those around you from what could be a meaningful and beneficial partnership for you both.

10. I am less valid

This is a particularly difficult limiting belief to navigate. Feeling invalidated, or of somehow less importance or significance than those around you, strips you of the very basic sense of belonging within the human experience.

Self-esteem and more importantly self-worth are critical components to your sense of well-being.

"I want to share at the club meeting, but I've never gone through anything as meaningful as some of the others in the group, so I don't."
"I'm in a bad place right now, but my friends have more important things to do than to worry over me."
"I'm uncomfortable with this person's behavior at work, but she's an important person and I'm just administrative support, so I'll just have to deal with it."

Realize that you have a story, you have an experience, you have a point of view.

These are things that every human being gets.

While you may not have it as good or as bad as some others, that does not make your story any less real , significant or valid.

Expressing yourself and seeking support when you need it is not a selfish thing to do, so long as it's done in a way that is mindful of those around you.

You may know that someone in your workplace is disrespectful to you and to other coworkers who have chosen not to say anything.

But that does not negate the discomfort you feel.

Your unique experience is valid and real.

Others experiencing different (or worse) conflict than you without speaking up does not mean you did not experience your own conflict.

This limiting belief of feeling less valid can be one of the most harmful.

It keeps women from reporting situations of abuse and harassment and seeking the help they may need in order to put an end to bad behavior and heal.

Remember that what you experience and feel is just as valid as any others' experience.

Pain and difficulty are not a contest.

What you're going through in no way diminishes the experience of others, nor what they experience should diminish yours.

Everyone is valuable regardless of situation or circumstance, and all have a right to feel safe and be heard.

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11. I always do this

When a negative behavior becomes a pattern, we can sometimes turn it into an excuse for why we do not change.

"I know I shouldn't yell at him, but I always do when I'm stressed out. He knows I don't mean it."
"I'm always late, everyone who knows me expects it by now."
"I'm a jealous girlfriend, I've always been like that."

Accepting poor behavior as a part of your character limits you from growing as a person.

Part of adult life is responsibility.

Taking responsibility for your actions and behaviors and working to keep them from hurting those around you is an important step in being a good friend, partner, coworker, and family member.

While it may be difficult to break habits, taking gradual steps to improve a little at a time will change your behavior as a whole.

Instead of lashing out when you feel upset or jealous of a partner's activities, remind yourself that while your emotions may be natural, using them as an excuse to say or do hurtful things is not okay.

If you're always late for work, start by waking up 3 minutes earlier every day, then 5, then 10 until you've reset your inner clock to be on time.

Changing this belief is not easy, but it is an important step in being the best version of yourself.

12. I deserved this (negative consequence or punishment)

When we mess up, even in a big way, there is sometimes a piece of ourselves that never lets the event go - even long after those around you have.

"I cheated on my last boyfriend, so I guess I deserve it when my new man doesn't respect me in the way I'd like."
"I was such a brat to my parents growing up, so I guess I deserve to have such a difficult time with my son"
"I didn't listen when my parents told me not to marry him, and now look at how unhappy I am"

This belief, that you deserve bad things, limits your ability to process and ultimately deal with the adversity we face in a healthy way.

Assuming that karma or fate are the cause of your unhappiness functions as an excuse.

If you deserved it, there's not much you can do to fix it.

This is inherently wrong.

Cheating on someone in the past is a terrible thing to do, but that does not mean that you deserve to be in a relationship that harms you or is demeaning to you.

Learn from your mistake, and take yourself out of a situation that is unhealthy.

If you believe another person's bad behavior is recompense for the way you've behaved, it guarantees that you won't effectively communicate your concerns and try to find solutions.

Try considering the circumstances and lessons from your past experience and apply it to what is happening now.

Perhaps after your relationship experience, you learned that relationships need honesty and trust to be healthy.

Is there honesty and trust in your current relationship?

If not, what are you willing and prepared to do to solve the problem?

If you were a problem child who now has problem children, consider what actions and advice got through to your younger self?

What methods of discipline did not work?

Identifying what did and did not help your relationship with your parents can lend some insight into how to communicate with your kids.

They say history repeats itself for those who don't learn from it.

Instead of thinking the negatives in your life are karmic punishment, focus on what you've learned and how you can apply it to better your life now.


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Limiting beliefs are something we create. They stand between you and all of the amazing things you can do, and be, and can accomplish.

Don’t stand in your own way. Don’t let the mental blocks keep you from finding a path that immensely enhances your life.

By not merely keeping those limiting thoughts in check, but truly eliminating them, your life becomes fuller, and your unique experience deeper, sweeter, brighter, and brimming with possibilities.

Anything is possible.

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13 Tips To Discover How To Learn Something New Everyday (And Why You Should)

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“Life moves quickly and what you learned yesterday is not adequate for tomorrow. If you're seeking to change your life for the better, you have to continually learn new things and then do something new.”
(Author: Kimberly Clay)


How To Learn Something New Everyday


If you could do something everyday for just a few minutes a day that would make you happier and make your life better you'd do it, wouldn't you?

Of course you would. And you can.

So what is it that you can do to make you both happier and improve you life at the same time?

You can learn something new everyday.

It can be as simple as learning a new fact, discovering a new method for completing a task better or more efficiently, to learning a new language and opening an incredible door to the potential for building new relationships, experiencing new cultures or traveling to new and distant places!

While the discipline and structure of routine is important and comforting in keeping chaos at bay in everyday life, changing our daily routine to learn something new can maximize our brain’s effectiveness and make us happier.

“Routine limits our brain’s ability to learn new skills and knowledge”, says Benedict Carey in his book, ‘How We Learn’.


Why We Should Learn Something New Every Day

All of us have a section in our brain, known as SN/VTA.

Although the SN/VTA section is linked to the learning and memory parts, it’s best known as the ‘Novelty Centre’ because of its amazing quality or ability to light up when exposed to new stimuli.

When we experience something new here’s what happens …

a) The “Novelty Center” of our brain is activated.
b) We get a rush of dopamine (a chemical that motivates us towards rewards).
c) Dopamine motivates us to follow through with the new thing.
d) We get another rush of dopamine when we finish the activity.

Dopamine is closely linked to the learning process. Research has found that learning new things stimulates happiness chemicals in the brain.

Furthermore, learning…

  • Builds our self-worth
  • Makes us more confident
  • Empowers us
  • Helps us to grow
  • Boosts our memory
  • Improves our focus
  • Helps us find a more rewarding career
  • Helps us earn more money
  • Improves our personal life
  • Fuels creativity
  • Makes us more interesting to others
  • Gets us more friends, and so on.


But we women, especially have overwhelming home and work routines.

We juggle all sorts of responsibilities daily, right up until we hit the bed at night.

Often for us, learning a new skill can mean taking time out of an already overburdened schedule to attend workshops and seminars, day or night classes, enroll at a training center or another type of school.

It can also mean going beyond the borders of our monthly budget.

However, it doesn't necessarily have to be that way.

We can still embrace learning something new everyday, but in a way that's manageable, convenient, enjoyable and maybe even fun.

By getting a little creative with our ideas and the tools and resources now available, it is possible to easily and painlessly incorporate personal and professional development, learning new and useful things, into our everyday lives.

For example, there are some amazing places online and through use of apps that offer all sorts of FREE and paid courses you can take in just a few minutes each day from the comfort of your own home (and often according to your unique schedule).

As examples, I’d love to mention…

Duolingo: Learn Languages Free - a highly sophisticated smartphone app that offers “bite-sized” lessons where you can learn basic to fluent skill levels in Spanish, English, German, French, Italian and many other languages while playing a game! An extremely popular and critically acclaimed app, it motivates you to learn, offering rewards “for meeting daily goals and achievements”.

Udemy - a popular online learning site having over 30,000 available courses.

Learn everything from career and personal development tips to boosting self confidence, an introduction to non-lethal self-defence, how to deal with difficult people, self-compassion, mindfulness, new language studies and much more.

Udacity – Lifelong Learning where more than a million people have learned business, software, technology and creative skills to achieve personal and professional goals using a convenient smartphone app. - where millions of people have boosted their creativity with free online classes.

The site offers creatives the opportunity to learn from experts in their chosen craft in areas like photography and video, music and audio, and art and design.

Students then may become experts in their chosen field, and go on to earn a living from their creative skills.

Youtube - I can't tell you how many young people learn amazing things by watching YouTube videos. If they can do it, so can we.

Want to learn Spanish in 5 days? YouTube.

Want to learn how to adjust the water level in the toilet bowl? YouTube.

Want to learn construction? YouTube.

Want to learn more than you could ever possibly want to know about makeup techniques, hair-styling or fashion? OMG! YouTube.

YouTube offers thousands of FREE instructional videos on topics covering almost anything you can imagine wanting to learn.

Facebook Groups - You can join informative groups on Facebook to enhance your knowledge.

Most any well-known hobby interest, professional group or charitable organization has a group on Facebook that you can search and apply to join.

These are just a very few examples of resources for learning something new in just a few minutes a day, or more if you have more time available.

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How To Learn Something New Fast


If you do find that you're often pressed for time (and aren't we all), here are some more ways to learn something useful fast:

1. Break larger learning goals into smaller units of time.

If what you want to learn is going to take an extended period of time to learn, then dedicating a specific amount of time each day (30 minutes, 45 minutes or 50 minutes) for learning new things works great.

As per research, our brains end up powering down very quickly when they’re running on overdrive.

Learning strategies graduate assistant Ellen Dunn of Louisiana State University suggests, “Anything less than 30 [minutes] is just not enough, but anything more than 50 is too much information for your brain to take in at one time.”

Neil Starr, a course mentor at Western Governors University (an online nonprofit university) says, “Brief, frequent learning sessions are much better than longer, infrequent ones”.

Scheduling our learning sessions for short bursts of time, using quick methods like flashcards and having (at least) a ten minute break between every two sessions gives our brain some much needed rest.


2. Getting a good night’s sleep.

Sleep time can be varied depending on what we’re learning.

Getting the deep sleep of early evening is important when we’re into learning facts like formulas, dates, etc., whereas the sleep that happens in the morning before awakening strengthens our creative thinking and motor skills; hence it’s best to go to bed a little later than normal when we’re on the creative side.


3. Using the ‘80/20 Rule’.

The Pareto principle or the 80/20 rule states that, for many events, 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes.

Both concepts were developed in relation to the distribution of income and wealth among the population.

Modern day productivity expert Tim Ferriss has highlighted the 80/20 rule for faster learning.

According to Tim, “You should focus first on the most important 20 percent of what you’re trying to learn, which will actually cover 80 percent of what you need to know.”

So whenever we set to the path of learning something new we can focus on the most important elements that yield the biggest ROI.

For example, when a friend of mine was learning French, she focused on the question, “What 20 percent of words are used 80 percent of the time?”


4. Changing up our learning methods boosts learning.

A study conducted at Johns Hopkins found that “if you perform a slightly modified version of a task you want to master, you actually learn more and faster than practicing the exact same thing over and over again.”

Modifying our self-teaching techniques can work wonders.

For example, we can use flashcards in one session and a more hands-on method, like listening to a podcast or webinar, the next time.

We can also use a different room and a different time of the day to learn a new skill or anything.


5. Learning from the experts or masters.

Learning from well-experienced individuals is a great way to learn something new flawlessly and fast.

Having guidance from people who’ve already mastered the skill gives an instant boost to the learning process.

Robert Greene refers to the need for an expert mentor as ‘ideal apprenticeship’, in his book, ‘Mastery’.

In this age of technology and information, we can be mentored via YouTube, Skype, or even professional services like MicroMentor.


6. Taking notes definitely helps us to learn something useful.

"Taking notes by hand leads to more active listening and the ability to identify important concepts", says a study titled ‘The Pen is Mightier than the Keyboard’.

This study was conducted by Princeton University and UCLA researchers.


7. Using the power of mental spacing brings outstanding results.

“You can water a lawn once a week for 90 minutes or three times a week for 30 minutes,” says Benedict Carey, author of How We Learn: The Surprising Truth about When, Where, and Why It Happens. “Spacing out the watering during the week will keep the lawn greener over time,” he said.

Carey further states, “One theory is that the brain actually pays less attention during short learning intervals. Repeating the information over a longer interval–say a few days or a week later, rather than in rapid succession–sends a stronger signal to the brain that it needs to retain the information.”

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Wrapping Up:

Challenging ourselves to learn something new every day and adopting smart resources to accomplish that, can benefit us in all aspects of our lives, making us happier and more productive without negatively affecting our scheduled routines and responsibilities.

Increasing our knowledge by learning a new skill, laying the groundwork for new relationships, better career opportunities, and richer deeper life experiences are just a few examples of how you can learn something new everyday and why you should.

Each of us has the same 24 hours in every day, but by cleverly using just a few minutes each day, you have the potential to add so much more to your life.

What will you learn today that's going to change your life?



A great tool that I recommend to develop your writing skills and get in the habit of writing everyday is LifeJournal Online.

Journaling is a great tool to help you to get the most of life and attain short and long-term goals.

It helps you to change and sharpen your perspective, and when you read and summarize what you've written, it helps you to look at your life and situation more objectively.

Journaling helps you make sense of your life, helping you notice connections, gain insight, and see life patterns.

You can read more about LifeJournal and get access to a FREE Trial here: LifeJournal Online.


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