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What To Do When You Make A Mistake

Posted by on Oct 19, 2018 in Personal Development, Personal Growth, Self Improvement

What to do when you make a mistakeOkay. I admit it.

I have certainly made my share of mistakes in life.

When you make a mistake, it's not always an easy thing to admit.

We all want other people to think well of us, and part of that desire is to appear as if we do things right all the time.

As if we don't make mistakes.

But for many of us, there comes a time in life when the light bulb goes on, and we realize that our lives are full (FULL!) of mistakes because at the root of it all, we are imperfect beings.

We ALL make mistakes.

So you messed up, we all do it. Maybe you accidentally insulted someone or hurt the feelings of a friend.

Or maybe you had a misunderstanding at work.

Either way, you may be feeling embarrassed and upset, which is perfectly understandable.

Who wants to go around hurting people they care about or creating more drama at work?

And while it may be understandable that you feel badly about having made a mistake, it is important is that you deal with the situation appropriately and move on from this experience.

So, we're going to give you some simple tools.

Here are five tips to help you move on from your mistake.


How to Move On When You've Made A Terrible Mistake


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1. Acknowledge that you made a mistake – The first part of moving on is always acceptance.

It is important to accept your mistake and own it.

If you accept your part of whatever problem occurred, you are going to be better able to move on to the next step.


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2. Apologize – Say “I'm sorry”.

I know. For some of us, it can be very difficult to say “I'm sorry” or to say “I was wrong”, but you must.

If you have hurt someone, if you have wronged them in some way, if you caused harm, you have to own up to it and you have to apologize.

Be sincere – admit your fault/wrong-doing/bad behavior, and express remorse for any hurt/discomfort/problem/inconvenience/damage you've caused.

3. Fix your mistake – Whether this step consists of a simple (or not so simple) apology to someone, making amends or covering costs for damages, coming up with a plan to make things right can be the most empowering part of moving on!

There is nothing more proactive than deciding on a plan to move forward and executing it to the best of your ability.

Everyone in your life will be grateful for your acknowledgment of your part in the problem.


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4. Forgive yourself – We all make mistakes, no one in the whole world is perfect!

This feeling that you're having now—the embarrassment and anger at yourself—will fade eventually.

Accept that you messed up and forgive yourself for being human.

Mistakes are a part of life and carrying guilt around with you for every small thing you do won't help you.


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5. Understand and reaffirm to yourself that you are not your mistake – When you make a mistake (even a big one), it's something that you do, it is not who you are.

Your mistake does not define you as a person.

Your mistake is not you.

Do not waste any time dwelling on that negative thought or reinforcing untruths in your mind.

When you make a mistake, it's important to deal with it, appropriately, but then get past it.

With these simple tips you can learn to move on from the mistake that you made and learn from the experience.

Of course you're going to make mistakes. The most important thing is for you to acknowledge them, move on and be kind to yourself and others in the process.

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Is Your Procrastination Enabled By Social Media Use? (If Yes, Here’s A Few Solutions)

Posted by on Oct 2, 2018 in Productivity, Self Improvement

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There is a thief among us, and her name is PROCRASTINATION.

She's an elusive, insidious adversary that robs us of our precious time, energy, and productivity; a silent stalker that lulls us into a false sense of efficiency, while in reality we spin our wheels in a desperate attempt to avoid something we don’t want to confront.

In some form or another, procrastination happens to everyone. It may be as benign as making a last minute McDonald’s run because you couldn’t come up with a creative idea for dinner, or it can manifest in the extreme, as when you pull an all-nighter after ignoring an important project deadline.


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Procrastination is a time thief, but she doesn't act alone. Her main accomplice is AVOIDANCE, and avoidance has some powerful gizmos in his arsenal that lure us into the time-wasting zone.

These days, social media is procrastination’s weapon of choice, and it is terrifyingly easy to get sucked in. The good news is that you don’t have to be victimized by procrastination; you already possess the tools to beat her at her own game.

What is Procrastination?

The simplest definition of this all-too-human experience is the habitual or intentional delay of starting (or finishing) a task, despite the probability of negative outcomes.

Indecisiveness, boredom, or a feeling of inadequacy can encourage the temptation to procrastinate, making it easy to postpone an unwanted task.

As soon as any of those indicators are present, avoidance strikes with a ping! on your phone, alerting you that someone in your social mediasphere has announced a status change. Of course you feel compelled to react, and procrastination has you in its clutches.


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Warning Signs

Do you find yourself jumping every time there’s a notification from your favorite news outlet? Are you constantly checking email to make sure you don’t miss something? Do you cyber stalk certain people to remain aware of their activities?

If you answered YES to even one of these questions, you may be using social media as a crutch to enable procrastination. Social media is so pervasive – it’s on your phone, PC, laptop, even your smartwatch – it’s just too hard to resist.

Procrastinators instinctively understand that the main benefit of their behavior is stress relief. They are not emotionally prepared to deal with the issue at hand, so they find other tasks to take its place.

According to Mel Robbins, motivational speaker and author of “The 5 Second Rule”, procrastinating is like “a smoke break for the mind.”

Whether you veg out watching cat videos or do a deep dive on Facebook, procrastination is an attempt to cope with fear by employing a distracting activity.

And while you may be quite productive in that distraction, deep-down you know the activity is not moving you toward the more important goal.

That knowledge often causes guilt or shame, leading us to become angry with ourselves for doing it again. If the pattern is repeated frequently enough, the stress begins to manifest in the physical body, and can result in fatigue and illness.


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So How Do You Stop??

The College of Applied Health Sciences at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign offers some helpful tips for cutting down on social media distractions (and enabling your procrastination):

  • Have a plan – understand that it’s not okay to be on Instagram (or your platform of choice) all day, and plan specific times that you will interact with it Periodically review your usage and change the plan if you are spending more time than you’ve allotted.
  • Manage your physical space – when your work or study space isn’t organized it’s easy to get off track. Minimize the tendency to procrastinate by staying out of the coffee shop, and find a quiet, well-lit place with an ergonomically designed set up conducive to productivity.
  • Try online quarantine – if you lack the discipline to follow your own rules, get help. Online apps like Freedom, Anti-Social, Cold Turkey, or Rescue Time allow you to put a temporary ban on sites you can’t stay away from. (Source)

As our societal dependence on social media and technology grows, the problem of using it to procrastinate is only going to increase.

Start smart by realizing that it’s not necessary to follow every media outlet, and put the brakes on your own usage before it gets out of control.

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