15 Excellent Tips for Remarkable Success This Year (Part 2)
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Today we pick up from where we left our discussion last week to discuss tips six through ten of 15 Excellent Tips for Remarkable Success This Year. If you missed the first of this three-part series, you can review tips one through five here. (This post contains affiliate links. That means if you click on a link and subsequently make a purchase, I will receive a commission at no additional cost to you. We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites. For additional information, please read our disclosure.)
As we emphasized in last week’s discussion, success isn’t something that “just happens”. Success is always built on a foundation of preparation that is a combination of belief, knowledge, ability and action.
Now what that foundation looks like for any particular individual or entity varies in an infinite number of possibilities and factors. However most success stories include elements of those basic four components.
“Success is always built on a foundation of preparation that is a combination of belief, knowledge, ability and action.” Kimberly Clay
So, this week, we continue to find answers to the question: What can I do to help myself to achieve remarkable success this year?
Let’s get to it. Here are tips six through ten for achieving remarkable success this year.
Tips 6-10 for Remarkable Success This Year
6. Stop Making Excuses
It’s funny how people who aren’t successful always have excuses for their failure to achieve. What’s even funnier is that many of us have used those excuses so often and for so long, that we’ve begun to believe them ourselves. If you genuinely desire to be successful in your endeavors, then you have to stop making excuses.
Don’t have money? Not an excuse. There are innumerable success stories of individuals who started without money. Author J.K Rowling, currently one of the world’s wealthiest women, used to be a single mother on welfare. Founder of the hosiery empire SPANX and billionaire, Sara Blakely, began her business with “a pair of pantyhose, some scissors and a bright idea”. Sarah Breedlove better known as Madam C. J. Walker, was an African American entrepreneur and philanthropist at the turn of the last century. She was also a self-made millionaire. And the list goes on…
No Knowledge/Not Qualified? Not an excuse. Every adult woman already has skills, a treasure trove of knowledge in fact, that she possesses regardless of her level of education and work experience, even if she’s unaware of it. If you’re entering into an entrepreneurial enterprise or any other endeavor where you feel you’re not qualified, get an objective assessment of the skills you possess, then be about the business of learning and gaining the skills you need to achieve your goals.
Don’t ever let “not knowing” stop you from going forward. If an opportunity presents itself, take it. Then, as you go forward, do the research and the work needed to figure out how to obtain the knowledge or qualifications required (hint: Men do this all the time. It’s women who more often miss opportunities based on the notion of “not being qualified”).
No Connections? Not an excuse. In this day and age of Internet, social media and networking, there’s no room for the excuse of not having connections to get ahead. Today there are innumerable ways to connect to people through the technology now available to us. In addition to those types of connections, personal connections, those relationships created from face-to-face interactions with people, are also critically important to your success.
But if you think you have no connections, you’re mistaken. You have connections everywhere: family, friends, church, school, work, your doctor, your dentist, your beautician or hair stylist and more.
Start by cultivating resources, information and opportunities from the associations you’ve already established. And while you’re family and friends may not have skills or experience in the area of your interest, they may very well know someone who does. Or they may know someone who knows someone.
You can never fully know how people are interconnected with each other. So don’t discount those relationships closest to you. Actively use the associations you already have as a starting point to support your efforts and what you’re attempting to achieve.
In addition to your already established connections, you also need to cultivate new ones. Establish and nurture new contacts with people who are specifically linked to what you seek. Search local organizations, professional peer groups or mentoring organizations as initial sources of potential relationships.
Finally search online groups on Facebook or Twitter that are comprised of individuals with interests similar to yours, who are working to achieve the same things, or who have already found success in the areas that you have an interest. When you find them, join them. They can be immensely helpful and supportive resources for your efforts.
Don’t let “not having connections” be an obstacle to your success. If you don’t have the connections you need, make them and move forward.
7. Be Committed. Believe In Yourself
YOU have to believe you can do what it is you intend to do. You must believe that what you envision is not only possible, but it is possible for you. And you have to realize that your only real limitations are the ones you set for yourself. Once you have established those things in your mind, you then have to be committed (willing to do whatever it takes) to achieve what you envision.
I think that it was Maya Angelou who some years ago articulated at least one of her ideas about belief in herself and her potential to achieve. What she said was that if what she desired had been achieved by another person, then that meant that she could achieve it too. Her perspective was that if something was humanly possible, then it was within her capabilities because she’s human too.
8. Stop Holding On To The Past
THE PAST DOES NOT MATTER! It is the past. Past failures and mistakes, don’t matter. Your past ways of thinking got you where you are today. If where you are is not where you want to be or you want something new/different/better, then your thinking needs to change.
Similar to your thinking, your past actions (past ways of doing things) got you where you are today. If you want to be somewhere different or living within different circumstances, then you need to start doing things differently. And finally, past successes don’t matter. The cumulative of your past successes have not delivered you to the place or reality you seek. Consequently, they don’t count.
Holding onto the past will only keep you rooted where you are. Stagnate. You have to let go of the past, and be an active participate in your present (opening yourself to new thoughts, teaching, methods and possibilities), so that you can step into the future you foresee.
9. Expect Failure. Embrace It.
You cannot succeed without first experiencing failure. Stop trying to avoid failing. Recognize that breakdowns, malfunctions, loss, collapse, crashes and disasters happen, and should be anticipated. Any one or all of those things may be a part of your process and experience at the end of a journey that culminates in success.
So welcome failure and the lessons it will bring to speed progress and propel you forward.
10. Be A (Wo)Man
Be courageous. In the face of those who may not have confidence in you, and your own insecurities about what you are attempting to achieve, go after what you want. Stop waiting for someone to bring it to you, or open a door for you and invite you “in”. Go get it.
Stop being sensitive. The opinions of others and what they believe or don’t believe doesn’t matter. What matters is what you believe and know to be true. Stick with that. Don’t let criticisms, insults or what others say or don’t say, do or don’t do disturb, disappoint or affect you or make you waver in your determination and commitment to succeed.
Stop being timid. “Playing small” won’t serve you well. Ask for what you need. Go after what you want. You have a voice. Use it.
Stop apologizing. You have as much right as anyone to pursue those things that will make you, your life and the lives of those with whom you come in contact better. If that means that you need to disrupt the “normal” in your life, or that you need to change some things about yourself and about your life, you don’t have to apologize for that. You have a right to grow and to become more of who and what you are meant to be.
Preparation and practice. You have to ready yourself, and then execute your beliefs and ideas to find what works. And, you gotta work. Success comes from work; often arduous, uncomfortable, demanding work.
Sacrifice. Success does not come without sacrifice. You have to decide what you’re willing to give up, go without or do with less of to reach the goal. Be ready to be uncomfortable.
That’s it for now! Stay tuned next week for the final article of this series when we discuss tips eleven through fifteen of 15 Excellent Tips for Remarkable Success This Year.
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Kimberly Clay is the founder and creative force behind What She Say. She’s a business professional, writer and editor who’s been creating and managing digital content for nearly twenty years. Her work is now focused in the areas of self-improvement and personal development, and she is passionate about helping other individuals, especially women, to find a path for living their best life.