15 Excellent Tips for Remarkable Success This Year (Part 1)
Successful people don’t just “happen”. They have a foundation from which to build their success. Discover how to put yourself in position to accomplish what you desire for this year.
Today we’re going to begin a look at 15 excellent tips for things you can do to align yourself with a path of success this year. Here in Part 1 of this series, we’ll discuss the first five of these suggestions.
Tips for Success, 1 – 5
1. Establish and grow connections, with new and different friends, in alignment with the person you are becoming.
I don’t know that I buy into the whole “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” thing. But I do know that the relationships people ordinarily form are very much about proximity and convenience.
You form relationships through your family, work, church and social groups. It then stands to reason that the people with whom you have relationships (while there will be some differences) are more like you (in terms of how you present yourself to the world and what your daily life and experiences are) than they are different from you. And while there’s nothing wrong with that, it makes it difficult to grow.
It is extremely difficult to dramatically change the trajectory of your life and keep the same friends and the same social group you’ve been a part of. In fact, it’s rare.
Growth comes from being exposed to new and different thoughts, perspectives and experiences. And as you have those new experiences, you are changed; you then see the world differently and what you want from your life experience evolves.
But don’t focus on current friends and social connections and trying to determine whether or not they are beneficial to you and your growth and what all that means. Simply begin the process of making new friends and forging new relationships and connections.
Surround yourself with the people and environment that nurtures the person that you are authentically and who you’re growing into. As you do that, the friendships and relationships that are not conducive to your new vision will simply fall away. Your new relationships will help you to grow into the new person and the authentic person you want to be.
2. Initiate or deepen relationships with people who have higher expectations of and for you.
This one is not always so easy. You have to know as you do the work that’s required for you to be successful, that it is work. Most of us have at least somewhat of an aversion to work that we know from the outset is going to be difficult.
We would much rather cut ourselves some slack and give ourselves “brownie points” for at least making an effort. News flash…a lot of people “make an effort”, that hardly means they’ll be successful.
Having said that, there is a need to find one or a few (because it doesn’t require many) people whose expectations of you and for you are much higher than your own. Why? Because those people are invaluable to you in your push forward.
They’ll hold you accountable to your vision for success. They won’t “let you slide”, and are ready, willing and able to confront you when you’re being a slacker. They know you and see your potential. Heck they see in you things you don’t even see in yourself. They know what you’re capable of achieving if you’ll just “do the work”.
So, find a teacher, a mentor or just someone who already has what it is that you want. Let them help you, even if it’s a kick in the pants. Let them support you as you get where you need to be to achieve those things that are meaningful to you.
3. Stop believing factors outside of you dictate the direction of your life.
This is a biggy. Successful people don’t believe that they are tossed around by whims of fate. They believe in their own abilities, and for those who are Christians, they believe in the power of God and the purpose He has for their lives.
A lot of people in the world are not financially secure. Many of them believe they will never be financially successful because the condition of the economy (whatever condition that may be at any particular time) is not conducive to their financial success.
People are unsuccessful in business because they believe that the business climate is not conducive to their success. There are people who are not homeowners because they believe the housing market is rigged and bankers are working against them (Okay, that one is a little true. [Cough] Goldman-Sachs. [Cough. Cough.]).
Some people unsuccessful in relationships believe that their failures are due to the world being full of jerks. And, there are people who are unsuccessful parents that believe their lack of success is because kids these days are just “bad”. The list goes on.
To achieve any ambitions of a successful nature, you have to give up the notion that you are at the mercy of fate; or that you can go through life passively and be successful. You can’t.
Yes, life is certainly full of unplanned, unforeseen and surprising (and not necessarily in a good way) situations and circumstances, but that’s life. And those circumstances, whatever they are, don’t have the power to get you down and keep you down, unless you allow it.
You have power, even when you don’t have control.
You have power, even when you don’t have control.
Use it. Focus your attention and energy on how you can affect (proactive) your circumstances and the world around you, rather than how their effects (reactive) may hinder you.
4. Eliminate your tolerance for things in your life that aren’t good for you, that make you unhappy and don’t contribute to your higher self and purpose.
People can put up with a lot, especially women. Because as a gender we’re taught to be nice and polite, and “Don’t make too much noise”, and “Don’t get your hands dirty”, and we are the nurturers, and so on.
Even if we’re not told directly, the message is clear to us that we are not the priority. How someone else feels, their happiness or well-being is more important than our own. We interpret those lessons to mean we should accept less than what we deserve or that we simply don’t deserve…
While nobody’s life is truly perfect, you only get one life. There are no “do-overs”. Therefore, you’re not obligated to put up with that which is not beneficial to your well-being or your happiness for that matter.
That includes bad treatment, bad habits, bad health or negative thoughts. So, if you are truly on a road that leads to you being and doing better, get rid of those things that don’t contribute toward that end.
5. Realize that going “full throttle” all the time will burn you out.
I learned this lesson several years ago. I had started a new project and I was determined that come what may, I was going to grind it out until I reached my goal, or life screamed “uncle”. Yeah, you’re right. Life took one look in my direction and sucked it’s teeth.
I hung on for two years, working hard, pushing, getting little in the way of rest or sleep, and then I got really sick. I couldn’t keep up the pace I had set for myself, and I collapsed under the weight of it.
Save yourself some time and trouble. Learn the art of pace and patience. You don’t have to do it all at once or attempt to have it all at once. If you do just one thing today or this week or this month, you’ll be that much closer to where you want to be.
And while it’s true that if you do more (and you’re doing the right things), you’ll get where you’re going faster, it is also true that if you continue to do what you’re doing consistently, your efforts will accumulate.
What started as a small thing will grow and become more potent and effective. And before you know it, you will have arrived at just the place you intended.
So pace yourself according to your abilities. Push yourself to always move in a forward direction. You may not reach your goal as fast as you’d like, but getting there more slowly is better than never getting there at all.
That’s it for Part 1 of “15 Excellent Tips for Remarkable Success This Year”. Stay tuned for Part 2 next week.
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