10 Brilliant Relationship Goals to Help Make This Your Best Year Ever
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Relationships, whether romantic, friendly or with family are crucial to our survival as human beings, especially as women.
We need the connections, the love and the support of good relaitonaships to be healthy, happy and to thrive.
Healthy relationships help us to reduce stress, recover better from illness and provide us the emotional support we need.
It's a brand new year. The season for goal-setting. We've firmly closed the door on the year past, as we move forward into the year before us.
And as we consider what we want the future to look like, what we wish to see in this current year, some of our thoughts turn toward our relationships.
So it makes this a perfect time to consider relationship goals.
What do we desire from our relationships?
What do we hope to gain?
How can we make our lives richer, better, happier and more enjoyable through our interactions with the important people in our lives?
We can talk all day about things we want in life and what we desire from our relationship connections, but unless and until we create a plan to make those desires happen, and then act on that plan, nothing will change. Nothing will improve.
We'll simply have a wish list that's not much good for anything.
So why set and pursue relationship goals?
To provide yourself with a "road map" for achieving what you desire to have in your relationships as part of a better life.
To give focus, direction, motivation and accountability for your day-to-day efforts to achieve the things you say you want.
To help you maximize your efforts to get the most benefit from your relationships and life.
So below, we've outlined ten relationship goals to help you as you work to make this year your best one yet.
10 Relationship Goals for 2018
1. Be kind.
Lately the world has become a place where it seems we have almost completely lost all sense of the need for civility and kindness towards one another.
If you want to have better relationships at home, at work and in your community, start by showing a little more kindness toward those with whom you come in contact.
It costs little to nothing for any of us to be kind to others, and the benefits to others, but even more so to ourselves are infinite.
Be kind and I promise you you'll find you have more, you'll have better, and you'll enjoy deeper relationships in all aspects of your life.
2. Be sensitive to the needs of others.
We're all somewhat used to being the stars in our own show.
Life is something that happens around us. We're in a story where the center of the narrative is each one of us.
But the truth is, everyone has their own story individually.
They're not simply “extras” in yours.
And just as you may see your needs and wants as the priority in your journey, other people have the same feelings and perceptions relative to their lives and their journey.
Be aware of and sensitive to the needs of others.
By demonstrating a caring demeanor, you strengthen the bonds of your relationships through your sensitivity.
3. Listen with open ears and an open heart.
Sometimes when our friends or loved ones speak, we're too busy to hear what they are saying.
Instead of listening, we're busy planning what we'll say in a response or worse, we zone out entirely, disregarding the essence of their conversation in favor of focusing on our own thoughts (like going over to do lists in our head).
When you're engaged in conversation with people who matter to you, pay attention. Be present.
Ask them questions about what they're talking about. Actively engage in what they are saying by first listening and then appropriately responding to them.
This will lead not only to better communication, but will also lead to a stronger bond and connection.
4. Put away the devices and allow yourself to genuinely connect with others.
Between smartphones, iPads, and wifi everywhere it's easy to get lost in technology, be continually distracted and ignor the one sitting right next to us.
Introduce mandatory periods of time where devices aren't allowed such as a “no device night” or a device free mealtime and spend that time talking with your family and friends about each other's day or what's happening in each other's life.
5. Develop an appreciation for yourself and the important people in your life based on where you (and those close to you) are at this moment in life.
Life isn't perfect, humans are not perfect, and relationships are certainly not perfect.
But learning to appreciate the people, friendships and the love you have in your life right now helps you to develop a level of contentment with your life that will encourage positive growth and development of your relationships.
Things in your life, including your relationships, may not look like or be exactly what you thought they would, but appreciate what you have now, and work to make them even better for the future.
6. Tell your family and close friends your favorite things about them.
Everyone loves to hear good things about themselves.
Tell those important to you what you love most about them.
This will make them feel great and will make you feel good too.
7. Ask for what you need.
As women, this one can be a little tough for us.
We tend to put other's needs ahead of our own or put up a facade of strength and independence lest we be percieved as “weak”.
However, it has at least been my experience that those we love are not mind readers and it's unfair of us to expect them to somehow know information (in this case what we want or need) that we're not sufficiently communicating to them.
When we don't get what we need from others, it leaves us with resentment towards the other person.
Speak up and let others know what you need.
Do it kindly and as lovingly as possible, being mindful of their feelings, but making sure to communicate clearly, and you will be amazed at the outcome.
8. Get over being right and learn to say I'm sorry.
In a relationship of any kind, being right may make us feel good, but it's never the most important thing.
Pointing out that you're “right” in a given situation when the other party is wrong or mistaken, is generally not a good thing.
Nobody likes to hear “I told you so”; no one wants to be nagged.
Even if you feel you're right, your need to be right is not worth damaging or losing your relationship with the other person.
And just as importantly, when you are the one who is mistaken or wrong in a situation, you need to learn the subtle art of saying “I apologize. I was wrong.”
We're all human, and we all mess up from time to time. Handling it with love and grace in your relationships with others will strengthen and deepen your connections.
Trust is a critical component of any relationship, and it works two ways.
You obviously want to trust your partner or family members.
But it's important to remember that they want that same from you.
If you have been wronged in some way by someone, be gracious enough to allow that person to make amends.
By allowing them to espress their regret, to say “Sorry” and to make amends, you are showing them that they can trust you not to shut them out or to reject them when things go wrong.
10. Take time to care for yourself.
Okay, I have a confession.
I hate hearing the term “self care”.
It seems that it's everywhere now.
And for me it just sounds so very self-centered.
Everyone needs “self care” these days. Ugh!
However, that being said, if we don't take care of ourselves, we can't take care of anyone else.
Loving others means first loving yourself.
If there are things you dislike about yourself or your life, work on them and allow yourself the grace to know that it's perfectly okay that you are not perfect. You were never meant to be.
When we're not functioning at our best, or we're uncomfortable with who we are or how we're presenting ourselves to the rest of the world, we may lash out at others.
Such behavior is certain to be detrimental to our relationships with those we love the most.
Be sure you are taking the time you need to care for and love yourself, so that you can truly love others.
Is this YOUR year?
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Kimberly Clay is the founder and creative force behind What She Say. She’s a business professional, writer and editor who’s been creating and managing digital content for nearly twenty years. Her work is now focused in the areas of self-improvement and personal development, and she is passionate about helping other individuals, especially women, to find a path for living their best life.